imagine a mother

I won

this book

over on

Jamie's blog

a few months ago and have really been enjoying it. (I'm a bits-and-pieces reader lately, so it takes me a while to get through... but this is a great and very inspiring story of how

Lisa Hammond

started her business

Femail Creations

. In the chapter I just finished, Lisa quoted a poem by

Patricia Lynn Reilly

that I wanted to share with you.

Imagine a Mother

Imagine a mother who believes she belongs in the world.

A mother who celebrates her own life.

Who is glad to be alive.

Imagine a mother who celebrates the birth of her daughters.

A mother who believes in the goodness of her daughters.

Who nurtures their wisdom. Who cultivates their power.

Imagine a mother who celebrates the birth of her sons.

A mother who believes in the goodness of her sons.

Who nurtures their kindness. Who honors their tears.

Imagine a mother who turns toward herself with interest.

A mother who acknowledges her own feelings and thoughts.

Whose capacity to be available to her family deepens as she is available to herself.

Imagine a mother who is aware of her own needs and desires.

A mother who meets them with tenderness and grace.

Who enlists the support of respectful friends and chosen family.

Imagine a mother who lives in harmony with her heart.

A mother who trusts her impulses to expand and contract.

Who knows that everything changes in the fullness of time.

Imagine a mother who embodies her spirituality.

A mother who honors her body as the sacred temple of the spirit of life.

Who breathes deeply as a prayer of gratitude for life itself.

Imagine a mother who values the women in her life.

A mother who finds comfort in the company of women.

Who sets aside time to replenish her woman-spirit.

Imagine yourself as this mother.

Sometimes we're told (or made to feel) like we're being selfish if we are tending to our own needs. I believe that if there is balance, it's completely acceptable and very healthy to nurture ourselves. I know that for me, I feel refreshed and ready to care for the needs of my family most when I've taken some time to myself, whether it be much needed quiet time in the morning, a walk or drive by myself, a retreat of some kind, a thrifting or coffee date alone or with a friend, etc. I used to feel guilty for wanting these little indulgences, but it was at those times that I tended fight feelings of resentment and exhaustion. That old saying, "if momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" holds some truth. I love my family dearly. And I've come to realize that I have to take care of myself as well as taking care of them.

How about you? What little indulgences do you enjoy for some self-nurturing?